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Compassion:  Releasing Perfectionism


Compassion: Releasing Perfectionism

Releasing perfectionist tendencies sounds beautiful and yet is one of the most challenging goals that many of us face. Our society is hyper-focused on perfection, speed, multi-tasking, meeting deadlines, goals, expectations and a “I have it all together” attitude. Live your best life is a common phrase among the health & wellness community. While this sounds heavenly; it can give us another reason to beat ourselves up, feel like we are not good enough, being enough or doing enough if we feel like we are not living our best life. We often compare ourselves to others who appear to be living in harmony, abundance, vibrant health and positivity. We spiral down as we ask ourselves what we are doing wrong and how we can fix it to live a happier, more fulfilling life.

We have been programmed to seek out the wrongs within ourselves instead of the rights. We have been programmed to strive for #bettereveryday, which is wonderful if we are simultaneously giving ourselves compassion along the way. Skipping the step of self-compassion is extremely easy to do. I personally fall into this old pattern on the regular. I have a fear of being in victim consciousness and feeling powerless over my life, having a whoa is me attitude and not being seen as the inspiring guide I know that I am. Showing compassion for myself in a moment of not having it all together is my perceived weakness. In the spiritual community, we often use the phrase “our physical reality is an illusion”. The truth is, our life experiences are very REAL and sometimes painful. It is much more exciting to be in the energy of forward movement and personal growth. Once you are on the journey of expansion, creation and manifestation; you don’t look back! However, this energy can be a mask for not validating your emotions, acknowledging your pain and can become a reason for diminishing your life experiences. Life is about balance. We must honor our experiences, pain, emotions, challenges as well as our successes, growth, power and creation. In order to move into true forgiveness and transformation, we must have compassion for our experiences. Compassion is the key to releasing old patterns that no longer serve and inviting in higher vibrations that match what you want to create in your body, mind, spirit and life.

As we step into this new light and see ourselves with new lenses, we must give ourselves acknowledgement, love, light and grace as we let go of doing it perfectly and getting it right. You are on your own unique journey, your own timeline using your own inner compass to guide you. You are exactly where you are meant to be. You are enough. You are a beautiful soul. You matter.

The world doesn’t need you to be perfect; the world needs you here.

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Love and Light,



My Path to Now...


My Path to Now...

My Journey…

On May 22, 1986, my soul was born into this world (yes, I am full fledged Gemini!). My first 14 years of life were traumatic and painful. I was left to fend for myself at a very young age, and I had major abandonment and control issues. I was extremely insecure about my body, my intelligence and myself. I strived for perfection. I thought if only I could please others; I could earn their love, approval and acceptance. I struggled with an eating disorder at the age of 13. I also had severe anxiety and depression. I was crippled with chronic fatigue, digestive issues and hormone imbalances. I felt completely helpless, alone and disempowered. I felt anger buried deep down inside, and I had no idea how to process it. I thought if I just kept smiling, then it would go away. However, through it all I always knew in my heart that there was a better way. I could feel Universal Energy and intuitively knew I would create a meaningful life. I just didn’t know how to get there…

I graduated college in 2008 with a bachelor’s degree in psychology. I studied psychology because I knew I wanted to help guide people out of their misery and into a beautiful life. At the time, the only way I knew was through the mind. If I could learn about the mind and human behavior, then surely I could help people. Although I was still a complete “mess” (aka - I had not yet remembered the essence of who I was); I thought that if I could help others, I would feel better about myself. However, I knew something was still missing. I wanted to learn more about physical health, so then I could REALLY help people =) I went on to begin a Master’s Degree at Skidmore College and learn about Health & Wellness Education. As it turns out, that still wasn’t enough…

In 2009, I met my husband. I moved with him to Virginia, and we were married within 9 months. I went from being a college student to being a wife of an active-duty submariner with 3 kids in a matter of months. At this time, I was completely overwhelmed by life. I couldn’t find a job let alone start my career. Again, I felt absolutely disempowered and lost in the world. I was in so much emotional pain that I began to study holistic health and spirituality to find some answers. I completed my Reiki Certification program. I started seeing a Spiritual Life Coach (who changed my life, by the way!). I knew I was beginning to get closer to my calling…

In 2012, we moved to California where I started school for holistic nutrition.  I learned how to heal my physical body through whole food nutrition, supplements, movement, breathwork, patience and countless other healing modalities. If I listed all of the modalities, healers and coaches who helped me on my journey; we would be here all day. It takes a village! During this time, I also had a beautiful pregnancy and birth of my son, which was absolute magic. My experience bringing him into this world empowered my Goddess soul like no other, and I am so grateful.

In 2014, we moved to CT where I started my own business: The Vital Mama, LLC. My vision was to support mothers and their children holistically. While this was my intention; the clients I was attracting were not mothers at all. They were middle-aged women looking for answers about their health. I loved nutrition consulting and creating plans that helped my clients heal underlying health conditions and find their balance with healthy eating & lifestyle. I then reached a point where again, it still didn’t feel like it was enough…

In 2018, we moved to Virginia outside of D.C. Again, I felt lost in the world. I left my practice behind and started anew. I went months without work and felt like I was not aligned with my purpose anymore. I began diving back into my spiritual practice to unveil more layers of who I was and what my mission was on this planet. During this process, I began cultivating my intuition. The truth is, it has always been there and yet I ignored it as I was focused on “real world” proof, education, certifications, reasoning and logic.

As I started to allow my gift of intuition to come through; I started to come alive. I felt a surge of energy that I have never experienced before. When I say intuition; for me it comes through as messages from Universe/Source/Divine/God (whatever you vibe with) in the form of visuals, auditory and a “sense” or feeling. Although I am very in touch with my intuition and utilize it to guide me; I am not a a pure Intuitive.

If you choose to invite me into your life; I am truly grateful for your energy, courage and beauty. I look forward to being a part of your path & guiding you to create a body and life you love.

Sending Love & Light,